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Response: DoaM’s “Inspiration Porn Goes to the Prom”

I apologize – this was meant to be out yesterday (Friday) but it was a busy day, and I got distracted with other things. So it’s out today.

First things first – please go and read Inspiration Porn goes to the Prom on A Diary of a Mom. Go ahead, I’ll wait.

There’s a very important question that Jess asks in there. (Thanks, Jess.)

“What if you are that person?”

I haven’t posted much (if at all) about inspiration porn on here. But I was reading this post (I get new posts sent to my email), and… I just felt I needed to respond to it.

What if I were that person?

First of all, I’d be really, really upset about the fact that someone wrote this story without asking me first. (This applies to both examples – and hell, any other example you can think of where someone is mentioned in a story involving inspiration porn, or anything else for that matter, when they aren’t asked about it.) I don’t know if it’s a direct violation of various Privacy Acts, but still. If it isn’t, it should be.

Secondly… yeah, the people doing the helping, or the asking, or whatever, are generally doing a good thing. A nice thing. (Given the girl in the specific prom example apparently defended her choice of date to her friends, yeah, that works.)

But they’re doing something that should be Standard Operating Procedure. This is not meant to be something newsworthy! And even if people do feel it’s newsworthy, that there are people who are kind/nice enough to follow that “should be SOP”… the post I’m responding to is right. The stories shouldn’t be about the “normal people doing something nice for someone with a disability”. (Especially if the person with a disability isn’t even consulted about said story.)

You know what the stories should be about?

Why do people have to do things like this? Why don’t we have supports and accomodations in place to deal with situations like this (though I admit the whole “asking to the prom” would be a difficult situation for those) so that people don’t apparently need to go out of their way to be kind?

If you want to write a story about a situation like the examples in Jess’s post – why not write them about that?

(And for the sake of everyone – get permission before putting anything up.)

All right, rant basically over. It’s late and I need to go to bed. But I’ve wanted to get this off my chest since I read Jess’s post, and figured I’d have trouble sleeping if I didn’t. So, there you are.

‘Later, all!

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I’m in my mid-thirties. I’ve lived in Canada all my life (Toronto and St. John’s), but I’ve travelled to Florida, Massachusetts, England, Wales, Ireland, Scotland, and Costa Rica. I love airplane travel (as long as there are no noisy kids around me!). I’m proud to be Canadian (though Harper might end up changing that!).

I have ASD, aka Autism Spectrum Disorder. Strictly speaking, I’ve been diagnosed as having Aspergers, but (for Canada and the US, at least) that diagnosis is going to be melded with ASD as of May, with the publication of DSM V. Having ASD, and the job I do at the moment (see First Post), is why reading the blogs I mentioned above inspired me to start one of my own about my life in general.

Back in October, I got my driver’s license (as opposed to driving permit for learners) – after twenty years of effort and trying. A lot of thanks is due to my instructor, who has dealt with people with ASD before, and so knew how to teach me for the test (I was able to drive before, just not pass the test, due to anxiety and problems with multi-tasking).

I’m a fanatic writer of SF and Fantasy, both fanfiction and original, and I devour books as well.

I love animals, in particular cats, and I have a fascination with wolves, wild cats (including the big cats), orcas, and the physiology of cephalopods.

I love the wilderness – though I don’t really have the endurance (at the moment, at least) to go hiking or camping out.

And, rather importantly, I’m not someone who thinks about political correctness when it comes to vocabulary. I use what seems right when it seems right. That will include calling myself a person with ASD, or an Autistic, or an Aspie. I’m me; I can call myself what I want.

So, enough about me. Go read my posts – they’re more informative!

1 reply on “Response: DoaM’s “Inspiration Porn Goes to the Prom””

Whoof. And augh, so much.

Yeah. Some conservative websites tend to refer to stuff like that (and not in an approving way!) as “Virtue signaling”. As in, “Look at me, I’m obviously a Good Person because I did X.”

I don’t know; I was raised to believe that “you’re supposed to do what’s right even if no one is watching. Especially if no one is watching.” Most people I run into these days, though… if it doesn’t give them some payoff, they don’t understand what the point is.

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